Spring Break
Who is a real woman?
Anastasia Spytsya
Issue date: 10/27/09 Section: Opinion
I will admit that I still have a MySpace account. I use it about every week; however, I never talk to people on there. The reason I still keep this account is because I like to read people's profiles, especially the "Who I'd like to meet?" part. It really gives you an inside look of the American dating culture.
Sometimes, people are very creative with their choices, but for the most part, MySpace users are looking for their second half. Females often tend to have a list of habits that men must have. Some common and basic characteristics include, "goal-oriented, educated, wise, protective, sophisticated, real, not a mind-player and preferably with no children." As I read through this, I think to myself, "There are many men like that walking around. It shouldn't be too hard to find one." And then I look at their pictures and think, "Oh. Well, fix your moral character first, and then you might be successful in finding your perfect match."
Females today have changed the meaning of being a true woman. You constantly see females who find drinking or smoking pot on a regular basis to be entertaining. It is common to see females "u$3in d!$ 3nqlish," and who have multiple sexual partners. Being aggressive and loud seems to be popular. It is practically impossible to find a girl who would provide a comforting hug and a supportive audience for a story she's heard a thousand times.
So many girls say deep words, kiss and touch passionately, all of which are either true for the moment or never real to begin with. It is becoming impossible to find a girl who a guy can take home to introduce to his mom.
Where did femininity go?
I am ashamed of young women who have no class left today. I am tired of constantly seeing girls wearing short skirts that barely cover their butts. It is even more annoying to see a female going to class wearing a low-cut shirt that makes her breasts fall out. It is not sexy; it is slutty. Sexy is attire that will emphasize femininity, sophistication and class. Slutty is a piece of clothing that will cover some parts of a female body until they make it to the closest bedroom. It's na've to assume that that a man will want to have a relationship with a girl after she had sex with him on their first date. That connection was just as disposable as the condom they used last night.
If a girl is easy, it does not mean that she is respected and wanted. Maybe physically wanted but not in any other aspect. If she doesn't behave, it does not mean that she is trying to fit into modern standards; it means she is lowering her standards because she believes that she does not deserve better. A man will only treat her the way she allows him to treat her. No tricks will make him stay with you.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. And there is no need to make up different stories and to throw yourself at men. Where is our pride, ladies?
What is a real woman? From my understanding, a real woman is a lady who has class, sophistication and femininity. By having class, I mean being strong enough to not let modern society dictate who to be and how to act. It means to have her own set of values that will lead her to success. And her actions, her present stage of life, and her motivation for the future are the aspects that will prove to a man that when she says something, she means it.
By being sophisticated, I mean to express yourself in an educated, wise and sharp way. It requires an ability to challenge and to share ideas. A sophisticated lady will carry herself with dignity, respect and pride. She will have fortitude and compassion.
And by being feminine, I mean a lady who will be a woman at the end of the day. She will be in touch with her feminine nature. Her mission in life is not in challenging men and competing with men wherever possible; she enjoys pleasing men without feeling ashamed of it. She recognizes the differences between men and women in psychology, physiology and sexuality and accepts those differences as laws of nature. As such, she does not hate men, and is not overly skeptical or pessimistic about her ability to fall in love and enjoy great romance.
So, ladies, bring to the table whatever you want your man to offer you.
Anastasia Spytsya is a senior Russian translation major and columnist for the Daily Kent Stater. Contact her at ic affairs reporter Anna Duszkiewicz at aspytsya@kent.edu
Sometimes, people are very creative with their choices, but for the most part, MySpace users are looking for their second half. Females often tend to have a list of habits that men must have. Some common and basic characteristics include, "goal-oriented, educated, wise, protective, sophisticated, real, not a mind-player and preferably with no children." As I read through this, I think to myself, "There are many men like that walking around. It shouldn't be too hard to find one." And then I look at their pictures and think, "Oh. Well, fix your moral character first, and then you might be successful in finding your perfect match."
Females today have changed the meaning of being a true woman. You constantly see females who find drinking or smoking pot on a regular basis to be entertaining. It is common to see females "u$3in d!$ 3nqlish," and who have multiple sexual partners. Being aggressive and loud seems to be popular. It is practically impossible to find a girl who would provide a comforting hug and a supportive audience for a story she's heard a thousand times.
So many girls say deep words, kiss and touch passionately, all of which are either true for the moment or never real to begin with. It is becoming impossible to find a girl who a guy can take home to introduce to his mom.
Where did femininity go?
I am ashamed of young women who have no class left today. I am tired of constantly seeing girls wearing short skirts that barely cover their butts. It is even more annoying to see a female going to class wearing a low-cut shirt that makes her breasts fall out. It is not sexy; it is slutty. Sexy is attire that will emphasize femininity, sophistication and class. Slutty is a piece of clothing that will cover some parts of a female body until they make it to the closest bedroom. It's na've to assume that that a man will want to have a relationship with a girl after she had sex with him on their first date. That connection was just as disposable as the condom they used last night.
If a girl is easy, it does not mean that she is respected and wanted. Maybe physically wanted but not in any other aspect. If she doesn't behave, it does not mean that she is trying to fit into modern standards; it means she is lowering her standards because she believes that she does not deserve better. A man will only treat her the way she allows him to treat her. No tricks will make him stay with you.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. And there is no need to make up different stories and to throw yourself at men. Where is our pride, ladies?
What is a real woman? From my understanding, a real woman is a lady who has class, sophistication and femininity. By having class, I mean being strong enough to not let modern society dictate who to be and how to act. It means to have her own set of values that will lead her to success. And her actions, her present stage of life, and her motivation for the future are the aspects that will prove to a man that when she says something, she means it.
By being sophisticated, I mean to express yourself in an educated, wise and sharp way. It requires an ability to challenge and to share ideas. A sophisticated lady will carry herself with dignity, respect and pride. She will have fortitude and compassion.
And by being feminine, I mean a lady who will be a woman at the end of the day. She will be in touch with her feminine nature. Her mission in life is not in challenging men and competing with men wherever possible; she enjoys pleasing men without feeling ashamed of it. She recognizes the differences between men and women in psychology, physiology and sexuality and accepts those differences as laws of nature. As such, she does not hate men, and is not overly skeptical or pessimistic about her ability to fall in love and enjoy great romance.
So, ladies, bring to the table whatever you want your man to offer you.
Anastasia Spytsya is a senior Russian translation major and columnist for the Daily Kent Stater. Contact her at ic affairs reporter Anna Duszkiewicz at aspytsya@kent.edu
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Yoko
posted 10/27/09 @ 3:46 PM EST
I agree, but sometimes as a woman it is of benefit to act more like a man than not. I've had jobs that if I wore a sweater and knee length skirt, nothing trashy or slutty, but feminine I would be sexually harassed and touched. (Continued…)
Julia
posted 10/27/09 @ 8:16 PM EST
Excellent article, Anastasia! I agree with you 100%. Our generation of women we are becoming less sophisticated. Perhaps women are losing respect for themselves or feel this is the way society has shaped them. (Continued…)
John
posted 10/27/09 @ 11:29 PM EST
Um. As an American male, a gay one at that, I don't want to consider my gender resposnsible for the actions of others, as Ms. Spytysa obviously thinks. (Continued…)
Sarah K
posted 10/28/09 @ 2:49 AM EST
So as a woman, I should have my "own set of values"--but only if they match up perfectly with yours? No thanks. My life is not about pleasing a man or proving something to a man, or even to another woman. (Continued…)
notanignoramus
posted 10/28/09 @ 3:14 AM EST
A female identity can be hard to pin down, especially if you find yourself revolted by some of the things Ms. Spytysa wrote about. I do not want to be associated with clothing that is that tight, that short, and that low cut. (Continued…)
Damien
posted 10/28/09 @ 3:36 AM EST
Some of what you say is good, like not letting society dictate what a woman should be and do. That should go for everyone. But at the same time you are suggesting that women should behave, be feminine and so on, which goes completely against the other statement. (Continued…)
Josie
posted 10/28/09 @ 10:02 PM EST
Why should expectations for women differ from men? So, it's masculine for men to drink, smoke and talk in l33t sp34k, but inappropriate for women?
The women you describe who dress and act slutty in a vain attempt to attract men act ridiculously. (Continued…)
Caitlin
posted 10/28/09 @ 10:11 PM EST
I read through this trying to guess who wrote it, a man or a woman. By the end, I would have guessed man. I was shocked to find that another woman wrote this. (Continued…)
Sarah W.
posted 10/30/09 @ 12:16 AM EST
I really don't feel like repressing your sexuality is feminine or sophisticated at all. Certainly some young women allow themselves to be disrespected because of their lack of self esteem, but to say that a woman who engages in consensual sex and enjoys it is trashy or slutty just seems judgmental and ignorant. (Continued…)
f
posted 10/30/09 @ 4:44 AM EST
this article sucks and i will explain why when i nave energy
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